"Divorce is the closest you can come to death without actually dying."
These words were spoken by a pastor in New York several years ago. He knew what he was talking about. He had seen throughout his years of marriage counseling the truth of his statement. The pain and suffering that divorce brings is devastating. It brings a brokenness to the very heart of men and women.
It is a well known fact that broken bones do not always heal properly. If a bone is not set properly, it will heal crooked creating a lasting problem. The same is true of divorce. If the wounds of divorce are not dealt with properly, then the problems become buried and do not heal well.
You have probably heard the verse from the book of Malachi that says that God hates divorce. It is true, He does hate it, but have you ever wondered why? While there may be more than one answer to that question, it may be safe to assume that He hates divorce because He knows how bad divorce will hurt everyone involved.
If you have ever been through a divorce or even been in close proximity to one, you are already painfully aware of the consequences. God made us in His image, and therefore, He has a deep affection for us. He does not want anything to hurt us. He knows the devastation that divorce causes. He knows the pain and insecurity that it brings to everyone around. He does not want any of us to suffer that kind of devastation in our lives. It only makes sense that God hates divorce.
Just because the Bible teaches that God hates divorce, this does not mean that God hates divorced people. No! He loves divorced people just as much as He did before the divorce happened. If the truth were known, He is watching carefully hoping that you will turn to Him in this time of greatest trial. He has comfort and stability that can be yours for the asking. Even when you don't feel like you can talk to anyone else, He will listen patiently because He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:6-7 says, "Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."
Did you know that the Bible does not call divorce a sin? In fact, it readily recognizes that there can be innocent parties to divorce and even allows divorce in some situations. You may not be at fault for your divorce. If that is the case, God already knows. He is not looking to punish you for something you did not do. Even if you are at fault, God knows that too. He is still willing to receive you if you repent of the wrongs you have committed.
Many times we do not realize how ready God is to forgive us. When we are willing to repent of our sins, God is ready to listen. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
When Jesus spoke to the people at Nazareth, He told them that part of what He had come to do was "heal the brokenhearted." If your heart is broken by divorce, Jesus can heal it. He can restore you and rebuild you into a new and even better person than you were before.
When Jesus was on the earth, He met many people that were broken. One of those was a woman that had been married five times and was living with a new boyfriend. When He spoke to this woman, He offered her hope. He told her, "Whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life."
Maybe you could use some of the water that Jesus offers. He still has water to give, and He is willing to give it to you. Let these words of His remind you that you are still the object of His love.
"If any man thirst, let him come unto me, and drink. He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water" (John 7:37-38).
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